International women’s day: Why we should be lifting each other up in God’s grace?
Happy International women’s day….
To all my sisters in and out of Christ, to the mothers, the Grandmother’s, Aunt’s, Godmother’s, the friends that you call sisters and to all the women all over the world. I salute you.
James Brown is still, somewhat unfortunately, still right in his famous words ” This is a man’s world, BUT it would be nothing without a women or a girl.” Let’s face it women have been working their way up the ranks for years and some are overtaking men in being “successful”, (what does that truly look like or mean?)but we still have a long way to go in some respects.
I’ll admit the transition from English teacher and traveller last year, to expat spouse and a somewhat (for now) stay at home position has been for the most part difficult. I don’t speak the language, job hunting is never (nor was never going to be) easy and I don’t “have all my sisters with me”. No I chose to leave them behind in my native England, take a leap of faith and take a chance at making love work in closer proximity to what me and Mr.Slovak have ever experienced before and to be honest, I’m going to always be real with you… IT’S DAMN HARD!
I had to find a way to empower myself and be my own positive and I tell you Yes. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, however, it’d be even easier if I had some sisters behind me cheering me on and aiding in my rise after a fall. Truthfully, that has been hard to find here and its all transition. What makes transition easier is having a group of like minded females backing you up and tell you “you got this”.
“You go this.”
Yes, my sisters and family at home were saying this and Mr.Slovak too, but I needed real human connection. How do you find that? Seek and she shall find. I did find. It was tough, it was scary, but I hopped on that train (or in dutch de trein… yeah simple enough to remember, wait until you want to ask a question!) to Amsterdam Central and went on a walk/coffee date with some fellow expats, or as the dutch people call us “liefde pats” (people who end up in the country for love, usually after following a spouse/partner), and finally felt in a place where I could begin to belong. Because yes we can do life alone, but we were not meant to be alone.
It was fantastic to share our stories of moving to the Netherlands, many days(sometimes nights too) home alone whilst our spouses work for our daily bread, the difficulties in finding jobs in the careers we worked and studied damn hard for, but for which we needed the local language to pursue, the difficulty in missing family and friends in our native countries and not knowing exactly now to keep that connection without plummeting into that abyss of homesickness. So, there we sat. Women from Brazil, Columbia, India Italy, Russia, England and Belgium, sharing our stories and showing grace to each other in mutual understanding of needing to lift up and empower each other to get through the tough days and knowing that those ‘better days’ are coming.
So what is grace? and how do we give it? The old Testament describes the grace of God as deliverance from enemies, affliction or adversity. However, it also denotes enablement, daily guidance, forgiveness and preservation and this is what I want to focus on this International women’s day. To often we as women, put down our fellow sisters, we smirk when we see them fail and we are not quick for forgive them, we don’t praise their successes. In the work place, we focus more on self preservation than helping a fellow sister out. We revel in their failure! Let me tell you that is not from God.
For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” – Ephesians 2:10
Romans 2:10 tells us that we were created to do Gods work which was planned in advance. So, why then, are we always striving to be as pretty as that women, as successful as that women, as rich as Miss. Jones or as “body beautiful” as the model on the ‘gram or in those unobtainable air brushed magazines? Why are we not cheering on the women who are starting their own businesses? Why are more women not bravely going forward to take on the bigger roles at work? We all have our own roles in making God’s kingdom come on Earth and sometimes we need some encouragement to feel the God given empowerment and strength we have from birth.
Success to me is cheering my sisters on and watching them rise up to believe they can do anything they set their minds to. It’s being pleased for every success, it’s knowing that we are all daughters of a King and that real Queens don’t knock another Queens crown off their heads, they help to fix them straight. Who do you need to show grace to today? and the other 364 days of the year for that matter. Who’s crown are you going to dust of and place onto their heads and tell them to pull their shoulders back, stand up tall and walk in the glory of God’s Grace forever? Princesses kick their fellow women down, but Queens empower all other women to be Queens. So we need more of that a Queenitude and embodying the true power of being the daughter of a King today.
You ancestors didn’t fight, cry and die for you to not believe you are enough for this world. YOU. ARE. ENOUGH. Go step out in God’s grace and show the world what this daughter can do! For herself and for the other Queens in the Earthly Kingdom.